Memorial Weekend and relizations

Oh wow, I had a great long weekend. I have a lot to talk about so excuse me if some of this seems random, everything was really fun but it seems like on big blur for some reason.

The private road

 I got off work Thursday around 6 and went to our friends Matt and Ryan's house to make dinner. I made a pasta dish I had never made before, and it turned out pretty stinkin good! I was very proud of myself. Ryan introduced us to the show "Life with Earl" it is really funny, a bit inappropriate, but still funny. Friday was just as fun, we went on a motorcycle ride with our good friends Nich and Rebekkah. We have done this a few times with them and Sam had mapped out a little ride for us, but little did we know that google maps takes you to weird places. The map took us to this private dirt road that was crazy....bumpy...dusty... and very very long. It felt like we were at Hume lake on a really long and high fire road. The views were worth all the bumps and shaking baby syndrome we experienced. Once we came down from that crazy land we were starving and also HAD TO get to the O'Neill sale. Of course I got nachos at the Mexican place we went to: Realization Number 1: Nachos give me the worst stomach ache ever...and the worst gas (TMI?) At the sale mighty power rangers were saling lemonade so of course we got some. But most importantly i finally got my own wetsuit. No more wearing Seth's old ones that have holes in them...yay. We finally ventured home and took a nap, the funny thing is that Sam is very bad at taking naps but we both just crashed for 3 or 4 hours; it was so nice and cozy. The rest of the night we spent with each other riding bikes to verve coffee then to pleasure point. Then ended the night with sometime in our Harry Potter book.




The Inciters

Saturday we such a lazy relaxing day Sam went surfing in the morning and I decided it was time for me to get off my butt and get some exercise, so I went for a really really long run. The weather was so perfect and my body seemed to just want to keep running. To end a perfect run and surf session we had waffles mmmmmm. Then we just hung out with one another. That is the thing I loved most about this long weekend, Sam and I got to spend so much time with one another the kind of time we always want to have with one another. Later that night Sam had to go to work : ( and I went to go see our friends band The Inciters (check these people out they are sooooo good!) Of course the night ended with cuddling. The next morning we slept in very late, this was a real treat because for some reason we wake up at 8 every morning, but not this day! Realization 2: We need more rest we are usually trying to get too many things done during our rest time...we practiced slowing everything down. Sam surfed again and I did a project for the house. I have been painting everything we have because everything just seems out of sorts to me. I love seeing our little home come together one painted piece of furniture and hang of art at a time. The weather was so nice too it was just a good time being in the sun all by myself just painting a chair... now i think i know why people like to paint (though I am far from a painter or artist) I see how it can be therapeutic. We did some people watching at sunny cove and then it just so happened a bunch of our friends wanted to get together. The decision was made that we would do another "squeeze in" at the shmee shack. Dinner and drink at the Nowlins; the menu baked manicati, bread, salad, broccoli and asparagus. It was too much fun it's always interesting when everyone gets together in our place, it's pretty tiny and we usually end up segregated girls in the kitchen at the booth table, and boys in the living with all the comfy seats. It was nice to hear from a lot of our friends how much our home has changed, we don't notice as much any more because we live in it everyday but some people had not been here since we actually got furniture. Realization 3: I love our friends.

Ok now for Memorial day, Sam and I were woken up by Kyle Pitchford and Per ( kyle who i thought wasn't going to be able to leave out house the night before but i guess he did ) Then he and Seth went surfing. Sam loves Seth so much so it's so cute when they get together (it's cute to me but probably not to them)





Matt and Ryan



Then I finished up my chair project and we headed off to Matt and Ryan's again for a memorial day BBQ with all the friends again. Realization 4: Sam should not sit directly in the sun for 4 hours. We met some new friends that traveled from New York and that was neat too. Realization 5: I am too mean sometimes... and not in a "mean" way but in a judging way and I do not like it! Sam did a very good job telling me this in a loving kind way. I can't change everyone of my friends to make good decisions (well what Monica thinks are good decisions) they have to want those things for themselves. So after this very enlightening tip from my husband I am taking a new approach. After all the grub and friend time we headed over to the other Nowlins and had some more food and hang out time with them. It felt like we had not seen them forever so it was really nice to catch up and laugh with them. Realization 6: I have really really awesome in-laws, I'm so lucky! and this was our very long very nice weekend give and take a few memories.

girl time

Sam roasting in the sun

love

-M

Smack down

Sometimes Sam and I just like to play wrestle... it's weird because we just seem to start wrestling out of no where. This usually starts with one of us trying to kick the other one out of the bed. Very random, I know, and we both think it's hilarious. It just seem to be one of those things that happens. We usually cuddle after too so it makes it even more fun because we are panting like little puppies and snuggling one another. I hope we are old and still crazy and still want to wrestle one another. 

Date

On Sunday I had to force Sam to just relax... this means no surfing, no working on cars, no surf videos, just relax! He hasn't been feeling too hot lately and has been working really really hard. He also didn't get off work on Sunday until 5am!!! yea it's as awful as it sounds... So we had a little date day and it was so great. It feels like we haven't had one of these days, where we just get to do whatever we want with one another, in so long. We went to the art store and bought a gift for Mason (who is not 5 years old...time flys) went to rite aid and joked about how ghetto it is. Then went and dropped off somethings I had for the animal shelter. This was really fun because we got to look at all the animals there and dream about what sort of dog we will get (when we can actually have one)

After all that we went to one of Sam's favorite places... the Capitola book store. It's tucked away just enough to make you feel like you are the only one who knows about it, even though it was very busy when we went. We sat and looked at books and magazines for a while. I read about organizing and about what the color of your pee tells you about your body. Sam read about surfing, of course. I forgot to mention we were here because we were waiting for our movie to start, Pirates of the Carribean! It was such a good movie if have not seen it yet you should it's worth all the hype. I might have liked it a lot more because I know Sam loves it and we got to smooch and cuddle in the back row of the movie theater. Then it was off to get some Italian food because after all that sitting you work up an appetite. More cuddling took place and then we finally went home and cuddled more and went to bed.

very special Sunday.

-M

World Wide Web



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 I found myself lurking the Internet , in search of marriage blogs. I was curious as to what the world wide web would have to offer. Sadly , but not surprisingly, the first things that came up were "help save my marriage," "support gay marriage," "divorce help!" It's such a sad thing to see BUT there is hope. There are a bunch of

really good blogs out there that encourage Christan couples and offer great resources. It might just be me but these blogs seems hard to get to or like they are trying to sale something. I just want to see some raw truth about a marriage that has Christ as it's center, not buy someones book.

(bear with me I'm going to get side tracked right now)

As I have said before in this blog I have found myself searching for a deeper relationship with God not only for me but for everyone around me. As most of you know I did the Joshua program at Hume Lake Christan Camps (http://www.humelake.org/) by far one of the best things God ever did for me. At that time in my life I was lost, except i didn't know it. Joshua did not wipe away all those feeling and hard times and Joshua left me with a lot of questions and not enough answers. I actually found myself being very very bitter after the program was done because of some of the staff and how some things played out. HOWEVER I did have the most amazing one on one time with my maker. I don't know if I've had that same kind of alone time since then. I also got one amazing husband out of the program as well.

(now I'm getting back on track...sort of)

So what do I plan to do with all these thoughts I have and all the lurking on the Internet? Well, I'm not quite sure yet to be honest. I did only think about these things a few moments ago....well actually I wasn't just thinking I could feel God urging me to be with him and in return my heart felt like it was going to explode because I love him so much and I gladly moved with urgency. SO what I think I would like to do is start a journal one that is private and can be kept close to me and Sam. This journal will be for us to write about our love, married life so far, our sex life, babies, struggles, friends, what God is doing and what we are doing for God. Are you confused? isn't that what this blog is all about? Yes! it is meant to be just that.... but as you can obviously see it has kind of turned into just me (which is great because I love it!) Sam is a bit more private than me and that's something I love about him, it keeps me from too many TMI situations. I think a journal where we can write as a couple and individually will be one giant step for us in the right direction and we can eventually share them with people who might be randomly lurking the Internet one day.
 I love blogging and will continue to do so, and will still share all my drama, love, marriage craziness, random thoughts, and ideas. But I would really like to look deeper in myself and see how I can be stronger, more loving, and an encouragement to other newly married woman. It's a bit sad when a newlywed searches the Internet for some marriage advice and all they get are signs of failed marriages. Pray for me and for understanding.

a million thoughts going on

-M

The newlywed 15

I don't know if "The Newlywed 15" is a real thing... (meaning you gain 15 pounds when you get married). However I do know that I have gained 4 pounds since getting married and my exercise routine has gone down the drain. Because I would much much much rather cuddle and spoon with my love then work out! Obviously! who wouldn't?

BUT I love working out it makes me feel good and it's such a good way to clear your mind. So I decided I am going to start with a goal (lose my 4 pounds of love weight) and slowly start up my workout routine again. Sam isn't the go work out type, which is fine, so if any one feels the urge like me to get fit... let me know!

Good riddance newlywed 15!

The Law

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. that how I feel right now. We got some troubling news yesterday and are definitely not prepared for it. It seems like it's just the wrong place and the wrong time, but I guess all bad news seems this way. This is really going to test Sam and I , the good thing is I know God is going to get us through this.

I am over joyed that when we're stressed or worried we turn to Jesus and pray because it's the only thing that makes us stop being CRAZY PEOPLE. Psalm 9: The Lord is a shelter for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. Thank goodness!

Please be praying for us and for everyone involved. We need peace right now and to rest in the Lord.

(we are not dieing and no one is dead just to everyone knows)

Communication

Who says this is easy? 

I am thinking most people in a relationship will find that communicating is not initially easy. I have found with my own relationship that it has definitely not been easy. I do love learning how to communicate with Sam, however, I am still learning! There have been times where I am so confused i think to myself  "what did i just say wrong?" I usually find that it's not what I say but how I say it. You would think that a 21 year old would have learned by now not to be so sassy when she talks to the love of her life...whelp she hasn't...

There's a time when I NEED to hold my tongue and stop nagging.. but then there are times when I have to make life decisions and I have to say something or else life will pass us by. (These are the "harder" times if you haven't caught on) God is so good to me, he has walked me through ever single time that i have felt this way. And he has helped me be a better woman through it.
It's time to be a grown up and actually deal with my issues. I thought burying them or acting like I don't care about them was working... wrong again.... Forgiveness, repentance, truth are just a few things that will help this girl be a woman. Through these things, everyday, I learn how to love Sam more and learn that my problems were not created by him, so I shouldn't take them out on him. Even though he is amazing and will let me vent... and believe me I vent and then cry most of the time.

Today I meditate on this...

(Ephesians 4:26-32)

Love- M

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